Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Abba S., thanks for pointing out what a shailos is & I may speak to my wife about going to the Bais Horaah of Lakewood. As an aside, my Rabbi & wife are super-friendly. My Rabbi was 100% adamant all the charges against me were true & a beis din would order me to give my wife a get. After I pressed the issue & neither my wife or Rabbi could come up with even one example to support the controlling and abuse charges, my Rabbi was like I’m just going by what I was told. I asked twice if a beis din would really order me to give a Get; he kept saying absolutely – no doubt about it. Hopefully, the Bais Horah can clarify things. Thanks & lehitraot.