Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Zaha, you nailed my dilemma. My wife hates me for allegedly being controlling & abusive to her & the kids. Our Rabbi was scratching his head when he met with us because my wife couldn’t name an instance in 25 years when I was either. I’m hoping, and it’s a longshot, that if I can get her to go to marriage counseling, she’ll see there’s no abuse going on. The only way I think she’ll go to counseling is if a beis din panel member hears her complaints and says something along the lines of he would require us to go to marriage counseling before ordering me to issue a Get. Thanks.