OP, you are NOT helpless. You cannot be passive, and expect things to happen.
If you rely on the shidduch system, be a meilitz for yourself to anyone who is in a position to help. Don’t expect they will know what you are thinking and feeling, or that they will even think about you at all, if you don’t approach them for help.
If you don’t rely on the shidduch system, you can still reach out to friends and acquaintances for ideas, introductions, or a place to stay for a shabbos or an event. If there’s someone who you know, or who has been suggested to you, you can PICK UP THE PHONE. It may not be what you’re used to, but its better than sitting alone wondering why you don’t have any prospects.