just for the record, I only decided that I wanted to get married after my parents got divorced. I was too young yet to get married but old enough to have just started thinking about the concept in theory shortly before they got divorced. I remember wondering why in the world people get married, but then when they got divorced, I realized that theirs was not a “real” marriage and did not represent what marriage is about (something I would never have realized o/w).
And that is my response to all those posts that people wrote about the effect of divorce on kids!!