Joseph, it is true that there are some discussions here that are somewhat Torahdik and may be better than others, but I think the point is that one would probably be accomplishing more by sitting and learning a blatt Gemara (and t/f that argument does not suffice in and of itself).
One thing that I find hard to understand (and again, I am not criticizing since I do not know everyone’s circumstances and cheshbonos nor do I know what I would do in such a situation) is that I find it hard to understand why married people spend time here. As a single girl, I get lonely and need an outlet, etc, but I would hope that if I were married, I would not spend time talking to strangers instead of spending time with my family. I am sure that it would bother me if my husband spent time talking to strangers instead of talking to me or our kids or helping me (or learning).
Again, I am not criticizing anyone since I do not know anyone’s circumstances and cheshbonos, and obviously, everyone has his own cheshbonos.