Mods: The same thing that happened to elmos world’s friend happened to me. Please forward me his information. I would like to be in touch and provide chizuk.
The girl I was also unofficially engaged to broke it off after 6 months. She claimed it didn’t feel right, either, which is a completely subjective answer. There were no objective answers provided (i.e./ not in a career yet, different religious levels, family, etc.)
And her answer came less than an hour after she met with a high school teacher of hers (whom is incidentally a JOFA board member). There are just so many similarities here.
My advice would be to do what I am doing. In the face of this heartbreaking experience, I am using it as an opportunity to make concrete achievements in my life- get settled into a career that pays well (CPA), learn for a year, at least, and make connections with rabbonim, community leaders, etc., while engaging in chesed opportunities, in addition to losing weight. The idea is to make myself as marketable as possible to a girl who identifies as Modern Orthodox and is preferably either a bt or giyoret.