I’m a family law attorney.
I B”H have not been thru the Get process but many of my clients have.
I answer your questions based on the most recent experience of a male client (August 2016) This was a 16 year marriage with no children.
Who wanted the divorce…the man
What was the reason for wanting the Get: Remarriage in the future
The Secular Divorce was in place before going for Get
The Beis Din asked both parties if they understood the Get and process and wished one issued. Both parties answered yes and the Get was written and issued on the spot
Connecticut secular courts require counseling before granting a divorce, so the Beis Din does not usually do so (this is my editorializing)
The Dayanim/sofer/Eidim were Chasidim from Brooklyn who cane to CT for the purpose of the Get and met in my conference room. I have used this particular group a number of times.