Reply To: Romance – a gentile attitude

Lilmod, the original topic under discussion is the concept of romance. And the point is that it is a gentile concept and attitude.

The points about divorce were a side point that was primarily made because Rav Miller zt’l happened to mention romance and its gentile attributes and origins in that discussion. I quoted Rav Miller at greater length, including a fuller quotation of this shiur he gave, in the other current thread that focused on divorce. But to your point here, Rav Miller frequently said that the vast majority of divorces that occur in the frum community were unnecessary, avoidable and should not have occurred. And he made this point over 30 years ago; today it is undoubtedly much worse. He also said it is typically the wife asking for these unnecessary divorces. See the other thread for fuller quotations. Rav Miller zt’l said even maintaining a difficult marriage is preferable to divorce, which is typically much worse than most difficult marriages.