lilmod ulelamaid – “Everyone thinks they are a mentch, the key is to find out if they have a good heart. For example how do they response in a stressful situation.”
Actually, I’m not sure I agree. I don’t know if it’s fair to judge someone based on how they handle stress. People aren’t themselves in stressful situations.
I am referring situations when a spouse is upset the mentch calms her down this is a trait I look for in my sons in-law, rather then argue whose at fault.