I generally don’t get anywhere responding to Sparkly so I kind of stopped, but just in case this helps anyone down the road who identifies with some of the same issues (not necessarily being gothic and therefore not yeshivish, but some of the other stuff)-
I do know people my age (which according to Sparkly’s account of herself is around her age as well- let’s say, within five years of graduating high school) who use dating sites- they are generally not yeshivish, though, and they generally use SYAS/YUConnects (even if they don’t go to YU). Some are yeshivish, but they’re generally more open-minded and “modern” (whatever that means). Most yeshivish girls do it through their families (99% of people I know were set up through someone contacting their parents/their parents contacting someone, with no input from them besides for veto power)- some will also contact shadchanim on their own. There have been threads here in the past with names and phone numbers of shadchanim, and more are available online. You should have a resume, which I discussed here http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/what-to-put-on-shidduch-resume#post-621721 . Try to see if/how your family can get involved. Stuff like that.
But as someone who personally doesn’t feel ready to get married for a multitude of reasons, all of sparkly’s posts here ring alarm bells. Taking them at face value, they don’t strike me as the words of someone ready for a huge step into a new life with someone new. At the very least I’d consider beginning the process of trying to resolve issues, clarifying hashkafic/communal stuff, figuring out exactly what you want, because the way you’re making it sound (and I could be totally misreading) it’s like you want marriage to make everything better. And while I’m no expert in marriage, the impression I get is that it does, as long as you are coming in with clarity. I’m putting it off for a little bit until I have more of that (don’t worry people, I’m not very old) and I’d consider that the types of posts which sparkly has been writing, AT FACE VALUE (I have no clue what the person behind the screen name is really like), indicate someone who should really try to gain clarity before making a major life commitment.
(Before anyone asks- yes, immature people get married all the time, and believe me, I know a bunch. No, I don’t think that anyone has to walk into dating/marriage with everything resolved. But it can’t be denied that a certain level of clarity can only be beneficial, though different people can debate as to what that actually entails.)