A good way for a gabbai to remove stigma from giving kids gelila is to give pre-mitzvah kids all functions that they are allowed to do, and to give bnei mitzvah everything they can handle. That makes it a matter of hinukh as opposed to vying for kavod. I saw this done 30 years ago in a YI shul in southern Israel, and today only the old members of the shul are left … because the young ones built their own frum neighborhood.
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