i can’t get over this thread. am yisrael chai is right, and i hope for your kids sake, they never find out that you were the one who started this thread!
i hope your kids are taught by their rabbeim how chashuv this job really is. and if you choose to continue drilling this crazy idea into your kids heads, its time for you to move from wherever you live and come to where i live, where we have proper respect for the Torah and the people who are privileged to honor it in any way!
and, by the way, where i daven, it’s usually the bar mitzvah boys and older who get g’lila. not the so called “nebachs”.
if where you daven, they really give ppl kibbudim according to their “neb status”, then the ppl who run your shul, should be fired and you should get people with ahavas habrios, ahavas hatorah and their priorities straight, to run the shul. there is no excuse for ppl to be called up for something because they are a “nebach case”. do you think Hashem gave out the jobs in the Bais Hamikdosh according to ppl’s nebach status? i think not.