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“So i should just stand by as i see a boy who comes from a very religious good family get into a car with a bunch of not jewish girls from my class? “

Yes. From what I understand, I don’t think this guy is angry or hurt. He has male taavot. That’s why he’s hanging out with all those girls.

Ms Princess,

There is nothing you can do that will help him. In fact the more you talk to him, the worse things become, as you are drawing him closer to his taavot. If you need to speak about school subjects, then keep it to a bare minimum and stay business-like. You don’t understand a man’s desires. You are playing with fire. If you want to mekarev him, find a guy to speak with him.

Here’s a mashal: you go trying to save a drowning person when you can’t swim. Go find a life guard and you stay out of the water.

BTW, you mention that he is really intelligent. That means nothing in regards to taava. There have been many very intelligent men that were very immoral, from Aristotle to Bill Clinton.