Your son is 20 now? Don’t answer if u don’t feel like but – religion aside- is he in any kind of “misgeret” these days? Army? Work? College? I also remember when your next son was having trouble being considered for yeshiva. Without re-discussing the injustice of it all – has he done OK? And for you – has your life settled into some kind of livable pattern after the initial trauma of it all? Please don’t view this as prying – these questions come only from a place of caring and empathy from someone who’s been worrying about and “feeling” your “story” (?!) for these past few years. Please don’t answer, of course, if I’m being offensive.
Have a k’siva v’chasima tova.