I haven’t read all the posts but perhaps the following is helpful. I had a nephew who almost went off….his father is a respected Rosh Yeshiva and a very choshuv family. He basically left yeshiva in his teens, went to work in a resteraunt for a few years in Yerushalayim, and started hanging out with all the wrong people etc…Now he has made a complete turnaround ! What happened to him is interesting. He felt so pressured from Israeli chareidi society where everyone has to perform and if not, they are not accepted etc. He came to America for a few months and we as his extended family accepted him for what he is and offered to find him a job or anything he needed until he can decide what he wanted to do with his life. I use to tell him, “I don’t care if you learn or not, I just want you to be happy. If you want to learn, I will find you a yeshiva, if you want to work I will find you a job. Just be happy”. It worked beautifully. He was finally accepted for what he was. The three months he spent here, he was able to think (for the first time in his life) without all the pressure of Israeli society and he went back and put his life back together. He even wanted to break his smartphone ! Hope this helps.
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