Ultimately you are only as strong as your weakest link.
WOW’s post isnt the first one on this topic. Its only the longest one because it has become theraputic for her.
Why is the root causes being ignored. Someone doesnt go OTD overnight. It takes time for it to occur and many times (if not most) the damage is permanent. I dont know if WOW’s son is coming back or not. Nobody does. He obviously associates Yiddishkite with negative things, Why would he want to be religous. Why would he want to learn if he associates abuse with Torah. Who wants to get slapped by the Rebbe because one day he was daydreaming