Syag, thank you for that nod. As a human being I get hurt the same ways other human beings get hurt. I have the same feelings and suffer the same pain, I am not made of stone. That is why I chose to leave the CR to begin with.
As a Life Coach, I hold people accountable and responsible for their actions and their choices. I try my best to be considerate and helpful. I try to teach as I help. When someone chooses to attack me, i have the same right as any one else to respond, and maybe they can learn from my response that THEY should have thought twice about making the comment in the first place. Maybe they should realize that not every comment needs to be posted and not everything that is on your mind needs to be shared especially if it is a personal attack which has no place in a general discussion.
When I make a mistake or hurt someone purposely (I hope i haven’t) or accidentally, i step up to the plate and apologize immediately. I understand that you feel you were correct in choosing to explain to ME what the other poster meant. And I understand that you felt the need to come back at me with your complaint that you held me to a higher standard and expected me to be the bigger person here. But why is that? Why shouldn’t you just look at the situation and respond to the one that “misread” or misunderstood and explain to that poster that they misunderstood the context of the post, and they should not have made such a rude and hurtful comment. Why the need to tell the “hurt” party, you should be mevater because you are the “counselor” you should be more insightful?
This is a teaching opportunity. Yes I could be mevater and I could have ignored it, actually I could have ignored both posts. But both of you could have also made the same choice. WE all had the same opportunity here, not just me, the one who helps others. Everyone can learn to make these choices. As I mentioned in the original post, we can all choose to make a difference in this world. We can ALL learn how to do it.
On another note or maybe on the same note, as a teaching opportunity, what makes you think I was answering in anger? I was pointing something out to you, as you were pointing something out to me and you considered it a “put down”. Should I then consider what you said to me a “put down”? Everything is in the way you choose to read it, not necessarily in the way a person writes it. Everyone has the power of choice. You can choose to have rachmonus, you can choose to dan l’kaf zchus, you can choose to empower and build up or you can choose to knock down, you can choose to help or you can choose to turn your back. It is all in the power of the individual and the perspective in which they choose to see things or read in to them.