WOW, I disagree, one should never ask there own child to leave their home. It is their child and it is the child’s home as well! That is the worse thing a parent can do to a child and to themselves. First and foremost he is their CHILD and Hashem does not give us this child, this gift, with warrantees. The only reason a parent would need to do something that harsh is if he were a danger to himself or to others and he would need to be institutionalized.
The “Trade-off” with troubled kids is always “RESPECT”. That is the “key” word, element and bottom line. They are learning to respect themselves and are basically learning to expect respect from others. However, respect is a two way street. It is not enough to respect oneself or to expect it of others there is the other side of the coin and that is also giving respect. When one gives respect it is easy to respond in kind. They themselves will find it easier to respect someone that respects them. That is something that should always be pointed out because they were NOT trained that way. Respect should be a “given”. It should come as easy as breathing. Children are always taught to say “please and thank you” but how many adults are as courteous to children. Many times the radar on manners are turned off. But if you point out to them that they usually had respect for those who showed them respect or they didn’t have difficulty having respect for those who showed them respect, then you are turning them on to a good path and an important “choice” in their dark journey and state of confusion.