Well, I think it does make a difference which one it was.
If he was staying out despite that it made you angry, then it means his real purpose was to do whatever it was he was doing (or maybe to assert independence). In that case, he couldn’t tell you because you would get upset at him and forbid it.
If he was staying out specifically to make you angry, then he couldn’t tell you because not telling you was part of the whole point.
In any event, though, you are correct that it doesn’t really make a difference on your reaction. If the reason he isn’t telling you where he goes is because you will get upset at him, then certainly getting upset at him for not telling will not accomplish anything. If the reason he isn’t telling you is to get you upset, then certainly getting upset does not accomplish anything.