Reply To: Going off the Derech

Syag Lchochma-How you speak to your kids sounds great, and is probably the way we should speak to our (regular) kids. But what I got from Twisted Parenting is that regular chinuch doesn’t work on these kids (and it really doesn’t!). So our interventions have to be a bit “off” or “twisted” in order to reach them.

here to help-you are right about the jeans, but since it was a bit too extreme for my husband, we started by giving colored shirts for the first “bomb”. My son was so happy, that he seems back to normal already. But I know it’s only the begining. I can certainly understand how it would be a bigger tikkun for you than for your son. And you are sooo right about learning the true meaning of Ahavat Chinam. This approach forces us to confront all our beliefs, priorities and middos.

How long are you doing TP? Now that your relationship is repaired, what is your goal, and how are you trying to get there?