Reply To: Going off the Derech

aries2756-so why can’t he see then, that he just exchanged one set of rules for another, and he’s still not free from rules, which seems to be his goal? Maybe that awareness would help bring him back.

pcoz-nobody said we have to be like the Avos, obviously they were on a different madrega. But we should follow in their footsteps, just like we should emulate Hashem…right? Obviously, we can’t be like Hashem either. I gave my kids the message they’re great simply bc they are mine and I love them. They also come from a holy source, which makes them objectively great (in case they thought my opinion was too subjective). Of course he met his grandparents, and is proud of his family heritage too.

interjection-not sure it’s true. My son was pulled into this chevra, they were always seeking him out. And they made him feel ridiculous that he’s in black and white. None of them are in black and white, wear tsitsis, or go to yeshiva. Within a short time, my son gave up the tsitsis, quit yeshiva, and wants different clothes. These kids didn’t want a reminder of their past standing in front of them. I don’t think it’s bc my son was judgmental of their lifestyle, he’s not that kind of a person. It’s that they don’t want to feel they should be living differently.