Let him find stam yidden who practice v’havta raecha kmocha and ze hyo asah HaShem nagia v’nishmacha boi – loving HaShem, loving ALL Bnei Yisrael, AND loving the righteous among Bnei Noach (and there are many), and he will find eventually find Torah and Mitzvahs and HaShem and even reach all the Abisher’s precious secret hidden places which only a master of reflexive turning can.
For mow you must let go and live your son, love HaShem, and love yourself.
I also recommend learning the MeaShloch.