Reply To: Going off the Derech

yishtabach shemo-I agree with what you said, that even if my son is in any yeshiva where the Rebbes can be positive role models for him, it could be a good influence on him, and could hopefully undo the damage he went through. I would be open to suggestions, if you know of any places in Israel..

Sam2-it isn’t just my opinion, like you say. Even read some of the other posts. Maybe not in a mixed community, but certainly in a homogenous community where everyone wears the same thing: To change the dress code means a rejection of the lifestyle of that community. The proof of this is that my son left the derech of Torah!

mom12-the letter might be a good idea, bc he’s not too happy to talk to anyone. But on occasion, we do have those kinds of conversaions, although they don’t seem to make any dent. Hopefully your son will hear you, and cancel the trip. Today, one of the bachurim (finally!) called from his old yeshiva, and he told my son where everyone got accepted for next year. He even told my son that if he wants, the RY will still try to get him in to a good yeshiva. But my son told him no, without any remorse or regret…