WOW- all kids that go off the derech have someone that they are blaming..
funny thing is ALL my kids went thru the same system had the same menahalim.. etc..
why is one able to handle it and others not?
Answer is (as I explain to my husband- and not news..)
all kids are made up differently and handle situationns differently, others are more sensitive and all react differently..
I think my son started easing up and listening to me at about age 19.
He was also stubborn and told us in more ways than one ‘either accept me the way I am or to bad’
also full of blame. but I kept suggesting.. and all he would say is ‘we’ll see’
and one day I saw BH!
like I said, He is not on the same level as the rest of the family but at least he is not being difficult.
and yes, I keep meeting more and more mothers who are going thru the same thing..It’s really sad.
what is going on?