Reply To: Going off the Derech

Thank-you Sam2, hudi and mom12 for writing. He did end up coming home last night, although very late. It is 9am in Israel as I write this. He can’t get up, as usual, although my husband feels strongly that he cannot spend his days sleeping until 3pm, and then spend all night out with his chevra. We are at a dangerous turning point, a battle of wills between my son and us. Should we let him sleep all day, and hope one day he’ll come around? Or, force him to be awake, even if he doesn’t go to yeshiva, in order not to perpetuate this vicious cycle of hanging out all night and then sleeping late all day? Not sure which is the right way to go. Sam2, he is only 16, the army won’t start calling for interviews until age 17, I think. Hudi, my son just told me he knows that I hate him. He cursed me that I ruined his life, and that he hates me and my husband. I certainly don’t feel like a wonderful mother, but I wish I were..