yitzyshalom,
Now we know why the mods didn’t allow your posts.
What you call “being extra chumradik on various specific halachot” include things which are by no means chumros “that the haredim decided are most important”, rather, basic halacha.
Your statement that “Being dati is accepting the 13 ani ma’amims; accepting the torah and the talmud” has a glaring omission. You didn’t mention that actually keeping the laws included in the Torah and the Talmud is necessary to be considered “dati”.