WOW-My mother always tells me ‘you keep talking- even if u think nobody hears you..’
So I keep talking. I dont criticize. I dont yell. Just state my opinions and beliefs and what I would like out of my children and family..
and they always say..ye..ye.. we know already.
Oh! so they heard. and eventually it penetrates.
I really do have a great relationship with him and he always trusted me cuz I never criticized what he did just listened..
I do say I don’t approve, and he has told me many a time that he did not ask me and that it was not an aveira, to which most of the time I agreed but,i told him, it was not ‘oisgehalten’.
or it’s not very yiddish- he was not interested in hearing that.
He keeps on telling me ‘this is me’ ‘and you have to accept me the way I am’ so I stop.
He is quite mature and sharp. I would say experience has shown him a lot- all that exposure. (its awful) He is not into learning obviously ,but he wants to be a ‘somebody’ so he has a goal first a GED and then he will decide how to continue.
I do think age and maturity- if they go together, I am not sure-
does play a factor.. I also think all the exposure robbed him of some childhood.
I cannot turn the clock back. We can only go forward..
I hope you can sort out all I have mentioned here..
Any questions ask. were able to get in touch with anyone?