Reply To: Who wants to be a Tzadaikes like Rus?

Bina – “a 15 year age gap is no small deal. No matter what age, most women i know are looking for companionship, that they feel comfortable with.

although many girls are desperate to get married, that doesn’t mean that they are desperate – they do want to be happily married. many would rather marry a previously divorced guy, someone from a different background than they previously were looking for, etc. before considering a huge age-gap.”

I don’t per se disagree with these comments, but I feel for example a 25 y.o. sitting around not getting Red anything, should consider a man 20 years older. As matter of fact, I believe this woman is being Oiver an Issur. Why? Because what is her excuse for not being married right now? “No one Red me anything.” Well what about telling the Shadchan I’m willing to take an older man, even many years older? “Well, I don’t want to, it’s not Tzugepassed.” I’m sorry to say, acc. to the S’A, this isn’t considered an excuse Al Pi Halacha!