but the girls aren’t like Rus either were e/o wants them or they would be married by 22!
EXCUSE ME?!?!?
i didn’t read everything; i don’t have time right now, so maybe i’m taking this out of context – if i am, i’m sorry.
but, what are you talking about???? so happens that i dated almost 80 guys before i got married (most i should have never gone out with – my parents and i didn’t know how to do proper research in those days) and only 3 of those who i was willing to date again, said no to me, and out of that 3, 2 later wanted to go out with me a few years later. the 1 who didn’t want to go out again was going into business, and i stupidly (but honestly) said, “why would someone want to go into business – from what i understand, most people are dishonest in business”. understandably, he didn’t want to go out again.
i know many people who got married after 22 and married the person who was just right for them. i do know people who married someone 10 years older, some of the girls were 20 and some were 30, but in general, most people prefer to marry someone closer to their age – they have more in common and can understand each other better.
also, a woman, from my understanding, does NOT have a chiyuv to get married. if anything, it would solve more problems if guys would be willing to date girls a year or 2 older than them than if girls would marry a guy 10 years older. (i do know many girls who were older who did marry guys who were a bit younger than they were).
health, be reasonable. the girls also want to be happy and to find the things that they are looking for. just because they are older than 22 when they get married does not mean that they will not be able to have a nice-size family and find their equal in a husband.
if this has nothing to do with what you were saying, then just disregard this.