No one here has heard the wife’s side. There are two sides to every story. Maybe what trim considers wasting money, she considers necessities that she waits to buy when there is a little extra money. we have no idea what she is spending on. is she buying jewelry or maybe just a shabbos treat? Until we know more it is not fair to assume she is a spendthrift. Maybe they need to go to a Rov they trust and present both sides of the story and let him decide if she is justified in her spending instead of us deciding she is wrong knowing only his opinion.
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