Wolf: There are sources (the ones the Ashkenazim rely on) that fish and dairy is neither halacha nor sakana. If everyone held that it was sakana, it would be assur for Ashkenazim as well.
Little Froggie – nice of you to be dan l’kaf zchus, but it really does not sound like that from the lashon. IF that is what she meant, she should have made sure it was clear. (examples: if someone says they think it’s okay not to be shomer negiah and it turns out they are talking about touching their 5 year old brothers, or someone says she thinks it’s okay to wear pants and she was really talking about wearing pajama pants to sleep, someone says it’s okay for a girl to walk in front of a boy and she was talking about a baby, etc.)