Reply To: how to get rid of a grudge?

lightbrite – i agree. but the reason why its super tough for me is becaue ive done so much for her.

everyone: does anyone know how someone can make up for a grudge? my mom insists on calling this girl and telling her that im mad with her and that im having issues forgiving her i did tell her not to but she wants to so ill allow her to. if she asks me for forgiveness i plan on saying no only if she can do something to make up for it. what should i tell her to do to make up for it? i just feel like if she asks me it wont be a truthful apology. so thats why i plan on saying no. but i feel like if i say she needs to do something to make up for it and agrees then i can accept the apology. the question is what should i make her do to make up for it?