MA- “if you are truly trying to be pure & righteous then you will be fortunate to find your zivug on your first date you try otherwise it can take much longer THAT CHOICE IS UP TO YOU.”
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To answer the OP, I think that the concept of having a “bashert”, with which many people mean a perfect fit where they will always be gloriously happy and loving, is illusionary and can lead to dangerous imaginary thinking.
I don’t know if there is a concept of the one and only “bashert”, but what the word bashert has come to mean, no, I don’t think so at all. And I think it distracts some people from investing the hard work it takes to make a marriage successful, because “We just argued – what does this mean? What if he’s not my bashert?” The whole concept of bashert is ridiculously romanticized imvho.