Reply To: how to become more religious?

I think the question should be, “how to increase observance” or how to “grow closer to hashem and do his will”. You are religious by the fact that you believe in hashem. For whatever reasons (they are private and I do not wish to know them) your connection to hashem is lacking, therefore fulfilling everything he wants is also lacking. This is not unique to you. It is something we all have to work on every day. For you it manifests in the things listed above, for other people it is other things.