Sparkly: “lilmod ulelamaid – thats what i was also thinking i guess i was being a bit generous.”
Then again, a lot of people are engaged way before the 12th date, so they can give flowers earlier. But even if someone has been going out for a few months, if they are not engaged yet, I’m not sure if it’s appropriate to give flowers. Others gifts are probably okay if it’s at a point that you are both very serious about each other.
The problem is that it might be a little weird if he gives her a gift and they end up breaking up. A friend of mine had a shelf full of stuffed animals given to her by guys she had gone out with.
I have gone out with guys who gave me sefarim they had written on the first date. Since it was a first date, and they were the authors, it didn’t “mean” anything. In one case, I was really curious to read the Sefer because he told me that it had been put in cherem. On the second date, I told him why I thought it had been put in cheirem. I don’t think he was too happy with my comment. But then I told him about the parts that I liked, so he was happy.