i’m sorry but I need to chime in here. The two people most strongly speaking out against being insulting to others seem to be forgetting to turn the mirror in their own direction.
I had a streak of grey hair from early in my childhood and nobody gave a hoot. Come time to go out and the shadchanim were all over it. I never felt so ugly and degraded. They presented it as “ugly”, “a turn off”, “makes a bad impresion” etc. You know what?! That was MY choice. If they want me to put on a false front then they have their priorities all messed up. And I know some of you have your opinions about that, we’ve already discussed it, but those comments from you both are very cutting and judgemental. And if GD FORBID the person is grey because she is an older single than I believe you have some serious agmos nefesh on your hands.
Thank you for listening.