takahmamash, Nowhere did Joseph write that men helping in the kitchen is anathema to Jewish values. He wrote that egalitarianism is anathema to Jewish values. Apparently, based on things that Charlie has written in the past, Joseph felt it was reasonable to assume that he (she?)was coming from a position of egalitarianism and was attacking the concept that there are differences between men and women. The issue was not the specific example but the intention behind it.
I haven’t been in the CR that long, but I did look at some old threads, and if I’m not mistaken, Charlie is Open Orthodox and a follower of Avi Weiss. I believe that Rabbanim from the entire spectrum of the Orthodox world have declared that Open Orthodoxy is not Orthodox, hence, one is obligated to come out against positions that are coming from that hashkafa.