S2021- If everything was fine and only after tying the knot did the trouble start, ur right I understand ur fear of the second time. On that note I’d like to share something with you.
The Baal shem tov says, that when a neshama is upstairs many malochim redd it shidduchim. And since a malach is of great importance what they suggest must come true in at least a small form before it marries its bashert.Now, some “come true” by someone thinking of the shidduch. Some come true by someone redding the shidduch. Some come true by actually having the two meet. And some come true by the two actually getting married to eachother for some time and then they can move on and marry their bashert. (Baal shem tov ki saitzai) this vort has kept me upbeat since I heard it shortly after that fateful day and the way I perceive it is that I’m one step closer to my wife to be. I hope this will help.