I’m sure we don’t disagree in practice as in a healthy marriage a man is the authority, a woman is submissive and sometimes there need to be compromises.
Again, I don’t see why you say it has to be that way. If it works for your marriage — great. But not every marriage is that way.
In my marriage, no one is the “ultimate authority,” and it works *very* well for us. In other marriages I know, the wife is more assertive and the husband is more laid-back (my grandparents were like that) and it works for them.
IOW, you can’t make the blanket statement that the man has to be the authority and the wife submissive for it to be a healthy marriage. Every marriage is different and one model does not work for all couples.
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