Chazal teach us that women merit the next world because of their support and encouragement of their husband’s and children’s learning. Woman was created as an Ezer Knegdo, and so a womans obligation to help her husband is a primary tachlis of hers. Think of a woman as the manager of a baseball team. His job is to make sure the team wins. The husband is the team. Her job is to help him win the game, i.e. by becoming a great talmid chacham and yarei shamayim. Of course, she has her own mitzvos as well, which are also vital to her neshoma, but her role as an ezer kenegdo means that her success in Olam Habah depends on her supportive role to her husband. The converse is not true.
the manager of a baseball team is not “second class”. his role is to help the team win. if they win, he wins, if they lose, he loses. he facilitates and makes them win, but thyre the players. nobody would say joe torre has a second class role.
so too the woman is there to help the man win, by his becomign a talmid chacham. if he won, she wins. she facilitates his winning, but hes the player.
the torha says that woman was created as an ezer knegdo — if not for the role of ezer knegdo, she wouldnt have been created at all. But: This does not mean necessarily that someone would not have been created if not for the role of ezer knegdo. What it means is, hashem would have made you a man. We all would have been men. But Hashem saw in your neshoma that your best role – not the only possible one, but the best one for you – was to be an ezer kenegdo, and so he made you a woman. Your femmininity is NOT “you”. You are not intrinsically “male” or “female”. You are, intrinsically, “human being”. Your femininity is an incidental attribute, same as your age, your hair color, your financial status and your yichus. When hashem created you, He decides what tools to give you on this world to best fulfill your destiny. Some poeple he says are better suited to be a zevulun, some better suited to be a yissachar. This is true even though zevuluns role is to support yissachar. So too some people are best suited ot be men, and some are better suited to be women. Just as some are better suited to be rich and some not so rich, some very smart, some very strong, some born in our times and some born in ancient times etc. Hashem makes differnt people with different personalities and circumstances based on whats best for that perosn. People with a sense of justice are good for being dayanim; peple with a bloodlust are good for bing shochtim; etc. Your femininity is a trait, like a personality type, a physical type, etc. Hashem gave your femininity to you as an attribute; it is not “you.” You are a person who is famale, the same way a rich person is a person who is rich, and the same way a smart person is a person who is smart. These are circumstances and tools Hashem gave people in order ot fulfill their role best in this world.
Some people incorrectly assume that the only reason you were created is to have a supporting role. besides that thers nothign second class about that as described above, it is an incorrect statement. Its not that the only reason Hashme created you was to have a supporting role. Rather, you would have been created anyway, but your femininity, like a wealthy man’s money, like a wise person’s brains, were given to you because Hashem knew you would be able to accomplish your potential best in this world by receiving that tool to use it for the sake of Kovod Shamayim.
Women have a completely different job in the world. Ezer knegdo / akeres habayis / eyshes chayil / etc. For that, if a woman does her job of keepign the Torah, not allowing outside influences and society to impact on her thinking – as per kol kevuda bas melech – then the Binah yeserah Hashem gave her will guide her in her role.
But just like a man can neglect learning torah, a woman can neglect protecting her binah yeserah. So if she allows culture and sciety to influence her thinking, in violation of all those halachos and warnings that chazal give us – her binah could c”v be corrupted.
Men and women are both given the ability to get “clarity” for the things they need to do in this world. Men and women dont need the same type or measure of clarity. The Gemora says that the type of reasoning that Gemora provides those who learn it is detrimental to a woman spiritually. If you give a policeman a fire hose it will only deter him in doing his job. Men were chosen for certina roles in this world, including charting the course for Klal Yisroel, as in Gedolei HaDor, or, as it pertains to most men, to chart the course for their families, and their talmidim. For that, Torah trains them.