Obviously the parents must teach the kids and not just ignore what kinds of friends they have and what they do when they are with them.
But that will not happen if they are not there in the first place.
Hello… I’m talking about a case where the parents abandon the kids to their own devices. I’m talking about a case where the parent goes to school or a job while the kids are at school.
What lessons are you expecting my wife to teach the kids while she is sitting at home and the kids are in school.
So you are playing G-d and deciding you have G-d like powers to know that all through their future they will NEVER make a wrong decision that they would have made the right choice about if your wife had been there to teach them a certain lesson (perhaps that they would just observed, rather then actually being lectured to)
that will not change the course of their lives for the worse.
Oy… where to begin with this illogic?
First of all, let’s repeat — when the kids are at school, then my wife is not actively parenting. As such, there is no reason for her to hang around the house to worry about “wrong decisions” they will make at home — because they aren’t at home.
Secondly, do you and your wife EVER go anywhere without your kids? Maybe you’re going miss an opportunity that will have important ramifications in their future?
Thirdly, you seem to be under the assumption that parents are responsible for every decision their children make when they get older. That’s not true. My job is to give my kids the tools to make decisions on their own as they get older. If they’re a CEO in the future and fire someone, then it’s because they made the call based on their judgment. It is unfair and wrong to hold parents eternally responsible for everything their kids do in life.
When YOU bring them up, and use them as examples with the OBVIOUS implication that others should take some lesson from it regarding the topic being discussed.
No, it’s not OBVIOUS. Because something works for me, that doesn’t mean it works for everyone. Every parent needs to know their own situation. I know mine — and you don’t.
See, a fair criticism would have been something like “I’m glad that works for you, Wolf, but I feel that in general…”
An unfair response is “God will judge you for that…”
The former is a proper response, the latter is a direct criticism of a personal situation. I would not have taken the former personally. The latter I have no choice BUT to take personally.
That being said, let me repeat to you my main question:
Since the kids are in school all day, why do you think it’s so bad that my wife out learning/working while they aren’t home?
The Wolf