“There can be no harmony when there are two commanders.”
What about four Roshei Yeshiva?
The smart wife will make her husband think that he has made the decision on his own, but actually she has guided him into making it.
I recall a very wise and saintly Jewish woman who owned a business on Avenue J. While she was the brains and ran the business, this elderly woman (widowed and remarried) insisted that the customers actually pay her husband for the merchandise so that he would feel important.