Force? G-d forbid! My wife does it WILLINGLY and HAPPILY. Just like I don’t have to “force” her to keep Shabbos, I don’t have to even ask her to do the things mentioned.
Upon reflection, I realize that you didn’t really answer the question.
My wife does those things for me too. (And, I’ll point out, I do them for her as well.)
But you said that a wife *must* do those things. Therefore — IF YOUR WIFE DID NOT WANT TO DO THOSE THINGS would you force her to do so since, as per your bringing down the Rambam and S”A, she must?
The Wolf