I gave up a career to be a stay at home mom, to be able to be home for when my kids come home and not have to send my baby to a babysitter. However, changing daipers, cooking, laundry and everything that involves housework bores me to tears. (lately I’m spending too much time here because of this reason).
While I do agree that these things are important, but not every woman can enjoy doing these things.
I think in today’s society we focus too much on our wants and as Jews our life needs to revolve on what we need to do to fulfill our tafkid.
If that works out with our wants, then great. But even if it doesn’t we still need to do what Hashem requires of us.
I feel that women should stay at home whenever possible untill their kids are old enough to handle a working mother. They should not be brought up with babysitters, nor come home to an empty home without a mother because she is busy working (like I did). If a mother can work around her kids schedules and work when the kids are older and in school, that’s great.