Sparkly – Health never said that he spent more time with his kids than his wife – that was a misunderstanding on your part which he already explained- so I do think you owe him an apology.
In terms of divorces, I know people from all types of background who are divorced as well as people from all types of backgrounds who are happily married. I have never noticed a connection between the age they got married and whether or not they got divorced. I also have not noticed a connection between how long people dated and whether or not they got divorced.
Additionally, how long people date and how well they know each other is not connected to how they met. You can meet through a shadchan and get to know each other well, and you can meet naturally and not know each at all.
At the end of the day, if you look around you, I think it is clear that dif things work for dif people, so everyone has to do what’s right for him & not criticize everyone else.