I also found it wierd that he took my comment about it not being a Halacha as if I’m arguing, but he’s not the first person to miss a point. I don’t think all the people who misunderstood me are one. To believe that 40 is one is believing in quadratinity.
As for your arguments, it’s true that he doesn’t want people to Paskin from his writings, but he does give advice. Since this is not a Halacha, as I mentioned above, he does advise people on such matters. Also, you say that he doesn’t hold that a Kiddush is necessary. That doesn’t mean the whole thing is a lie. We all know that stories gain and lose details as they go along. Every time a story gets said over, it’s like openning and resaving a jpeg.