And the answer I heard about that was that a father has the ENTIRE picture in mind, he will do what is beneficial for his son. As in the shmooze I heard – a mother will give her son poison if he begs too much. So a father will have the real, total rachmanus of his child in mind and only do what’s really good, through and through. That’s called ????? ?????. Good on all sides.
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