We each have challenges to improving ourselves and different people are on different levels of achievement.
Whether the topic is homes, furnishings, clothes, jewelry, cars, weddings or vacations, it’s not hard to determine acceptable degrees of gashmius based on our personal life-styles and castigate those who don’t adhere to them. But, it’s not all that meaningful.
Rather than looking disapprovingly at those who, for whatever reasons, feel the need to go on expensive vacations, etc., let’s evaluate our own challenges balancing ruchnuis and gashmius.
That’s where we have the most influence and power to improve.