Joseph, lets use the coffee room as an example. If you represent the typical mindset and behavior of chareidi Jews in concentrated tri-state areas, would it be best for other members of the coffee room to constantly live around you? What about the giyores we were talking about before would she do best in Lakewood being your neighbor? What about someone who has a limited income and has to pay rent for his family, would he do better in NYC or OOT.
Some places are better for different people. Dont give in to the pressure that you have to live in Brooklyn. You have to go to CUNY Brooklyn. You have to pay rent in Brooklyn or Lakewood so you can be the best Jew. I think that pressure is starting to fade more and more today.