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i’m sorry you are hocking ah kup. there are many who say Kaddish on asarah b’teves for family members who were killed in the holocaust when they dont know the date. Many who dont know a yahrtzeit of their family members have a day observed by the town. this is especially true this time of year, go to BOro PArk where many Hungarians who had family killed Shavuos time 1944 live. They say Kaddish on a random day this time of year.
Kaddish has nothing to do with the dead per se, study the words it is a glorification of the Ribbono shel olam and serves as a zechus on any day. Look hate the tzionim as much as you want but to denigrate BOTH “gentile customs” and l’heavdil saying Kaddish doesnt make a whole lot of sense.
There are many times that deceased are remembered even not on their day of yahrtzeit. Have you really never seen a siyum made liluey nishmas somebody where a child of the deceased is asked to say the kaddish? Are you not aware that at a hakomas hamatzeiva kaddish is usually said?
El malei is often not said on a yahrtzeit, yizkor is said not on a yahrtzeit. You simply are criticising for critiscm’s sake.
As an aside, I disagree that sirens are goyish. It evokes a sense of contemplation or even awe. The equivelent of the Shofar mentioned by Amos 3:6. wreaths may be a a goyish custum. But as for flags well pay attention to laining next week (this week if you live in Eretz Yisroel).
At any rate even if these are goyish and I believe reasonable people can disagree. Critscing kaddish and kel molei is foolishness